4 Dating Resources for the Open Inclined

In 2007, when I started dating as a newly open youth, the landscape was very different. I remember celebrating in 2016 when OKCupid finally allowed for an open relationship status, as well as the connection of other partners on the website.

Now, there are many online dating options, and dating openly is much more available in many major cities. There are, of course exceptions, but there are many more dating options now than there were 15 years ago.

With more options comes more challenges, and we will address open relationship dating challenges the month of August. Before we get into new information, there are a number of resources already available on this topic. So I don't re-create the wheel, here are some of my favorite:

1. 8 Things to Consider in Polyamorous Dating Before Committing to Another Partner - Everyday Feminism
   
   If you are already in a relationship and considering dating, this blog is a great resource to help you consider your bandwidth and self-reflect on capacity. The eight considerations are framed as questions to ask yourself, including "Do I Have the Time, Energy, Resources, and Emotional Capacity for Another Relationship?" and "How Are Your Current Relationships Doing?".
   
   While everything does not have to be perfect to pursue additional partners, many people overlook what is needed to sustain their current relationships before dating, which can become even more taxed when new relationship energy enters the picture.
   
   Going into dating thoughtful and prepared can save misunderstandings and broken hearts in the future.
2. Crystal's Guide to Dating - Black and Poly
   
   Black and Poly is a wonderful resource for the Black community, and Crystal offers seasoned considerations when dating. The article covers ideas like self knowledge, your presentation, and your approach, giving tips for the time leading up to a first date.
3. My Top Advice for New Polyamorous People - Ready for Polyamory
   
   While geared toward folks who are new to polyamory, this article covers challenges that you might feel as you or your partner pursue dating. I agree with the advice on dating separately, as it aligns with what I teach about defining your autonomy even in romantic relationships where autonomy is usually discouraged.
   
   Laura provides links to blogs that are very helpful - and should be familiar from my writing - such as Unicorn Hunters.
4. A Guide to Dating When Polyamorous - Bustle
   
   I was not stoked when I first came across this article, as popular media tends to do polyamory dirty. However, I was pleasantly surprised by this interview with Feeld CEO Ana Kirova, who answers questions about dating. They cover a lot of topics, some answered much better than others. However, the article does a great job of showcasing many different considerations and how one might begin to think about them.

Dating while open or polyamorous is a skill that should be developed, as many of us will likely continue dating for our entire lives. Moving into dating with self-reflection and consideration can make the process a little more painless and a lot more fun.

In curiosity,

Dr. S. Kay Webb